Can we use Fitrah money to prepare meals for the poor on Eid day?

Answer

Fitrah has to be incumbently given in cash or kind to the Fuqara and Masaakeen. The objective of Fitrah is not feasting. Give the money to the poor to buy food for their families, and give them bit extra.

This feasting and merrymaking craze of Muslims nowadays is indeed a poor commentary of the moral condition of people. Why do they derive pleasure from the takleef (inconvenience) of preparing meals and from the other paraphernalia which accompany feasting. They derive fun from feasting because the motive is riya whereas in silently and unosetnsibly giving the money to the poor, there is no show and fun.

Fitrah must not be used for feasting. It must be given to the poor.

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