What is the correct method of disciplining children when they misbehave and don't listen to their parents?

Answer

Children are of different ages. A child of 3 years and a child of 7 years and a child of 10 years, etc. have to be handled differently. The first requisite is for the parents to be pious so that their piety exercises a beneficial effect on the children. If parents are impious, they should then not expect discipline from their children.

Two acts absolutely destroy the morality of children and even efface their Imaan. These two acts of Satanism are the cell phone and secular school. If children have access to these evils, parents may forget about disciplining their children. With these two tools of Iblees, parents utterly ruin their children and pave for them the pathway to Jahannam.

Another factor which despoils children, is 'friends'. Parents should not allow their children to mix with other children even with family children such as cousins. Habits are extremely contagious. While physical diseases are not contagious, moral and spiritual diseases are extremely contagious. Bad habits are swiftly adopted from others.

Parents should have daily kitaab-reading for their children. Read to them from the stories and advices of the Sahaabah and Auliya. Insha- Allah, in the long term they will benefit much. The life anecdotes of the Auliya will remain embedded in their minds and hearts. Later when they become even faasiqs and faaajirs, Insha-Allah, they will not become murtadd.

Hadhrat Junaid Baghdaadi (Rahmatullah alayh) said that the stories of the Ambiya and Auliya are among the armies of Allah Azza Wa Jal.

At night when the children are in bed, recite Surah Faatihah and the three Qul Surahs, then blow on them. Make much dua for their Akhlaaq and Imaan.

those Masaajid where time is given to perform Sunnats after the English lecture, many if not most of those present perform their sunnats and also fill up the gaps in the saffs resulting in those standing outside the Masjid finding place in the Masjid before the commencement of the khutbah as oppose to those Masaajid where time is not given. Late comers either perform their sunnats during the English lecture finding it very hard to concentrate or do not perform the sunnats at all. In some Masaajid late comers end up standing at the back of or outside the Masjid for the entire duration of the khutba and only find place once the sufoof are formed.

A. Firstly, no one should be prevented from performing Tahyatul Musjid and the Jumuah Sunnats for the sake of the bayaan. In some Musjids, the custom is not to perform Sunnats, not even Tahyatul Musjid while the English talk is given. The talk which is not Masnoon is given greater preference over Waajib acts of Ibaadat. This is obviously haraam.

The only compromise method is for both the bayaan to continue and for people to perform their Salaat as they enter the Musjid regardless of the difficulty of concentration. The Imaam should educate the musallis to come forward in order to make space for those standing outside. Under no circumstances is it permissible to forego Tahyatul Musjid and the four Jumuah Sunnats. If the situation becomes too problematic, then the bayaan should be discontinued.