Nowadays children have become uncontrollable.

Answer

The first requisite is for the parents to be pious so that their piety exercises a beneficial effect on the children. If parents are impious, they should then not expect discipline from their children.

Two acts absolutely destroy the morality of children and even efface their Imaan. These two acts of Satanism are the cell phone and secular school. If children have access to these evils, parents may forget about disciplining their children. With these two tools of Iblees, parents utterly ruin their children and pave for them the pathway to Jahannam.

Another factor which despoils children, is „friends‟. Parents should not allow their children to mix with other children even with family children such as cousins. Habits are extremely contagious. While physical diseases are not contagious, moral and spiritual diseases are extremely contagious. Bad habits are swiftly adopted from others. Rasulullah (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam) made dua:

"O Allah! I seek refuge with you from an evil moment and an evil friend."

Parents should have daily kitaab-reading for their children. Read to them from the stories and advices of the Sahaabah and Auliya. Insha-Allah, in the long term they will benefit much. The life anecdotes of the Auliya will remain embedded in their minds and hearts. Later when they become even faasiqs and faaajirs, Insha-Allah, they will not become murtadd. Hadhrat Junaid Baghdaadi (Rahmatullah alayh) said that the stories of the Ambiya and Auliya are among the armies of Allah Azza Wa Jal.

At night when the children are in bed, recite Surah Faatihah and the three Qul Surahs, then blow on them. Make much dua for their Akhlaaq and Imaan.

"Perhaps you dislike something whilst it is better for you, and perhaps you like something whilst it is evil for you. And, Allah knows while you know not."

(Al-Baqarah, Aayat 216)

Everyone undergoes difficulty / hardship of some kind. It may be sickness, loss of wealth, domestic issue, fear, oppression, humiliation, etc. There is no one who is without any problem, difficulty or hardship. Nowadays, one of the „lesser punishments‟ of Allah Ta‟ala is disease. Sicknesses of a variety of kinds, especially cancer, heart and diabetes, have become endemic. Some decades ago these sicknesses were rare in our community. But today!

Medicines - physical and spiritual - are not working - not curing. People are saddled with dear ones suffering from all sorts of diseases, and there appears no cure. We fail to understand that these sicknesses are part of the Punishment Scheme of Allah Ta‟ala. Infants are afflicted with severe diseases as a punishment for the parents who are totally oblivious of their transgressions and evil. Many have perhaps reformed themselves now that their brains have matured more, but they are forgetful of the evil and villainy they had perpetrated during their young days.

Remember and understand well that sin does not become old. Past sins do not wither, become stunted, old and disappear into oblivion. We are dealing with The Being - Allah Azza Wa Jal - Who does not forget. Only sincere Taubah and His Rahmat and Ghaffaariyat efface sins. As long as a sincere Taubah (Taubah Nasooh) has not been made, and as long as valid amends to compensate have not been made for the many acts of zulm (injustice, cruelty and violation of rights of others), the sins committed 50 years ago during your youth remain as fresh and stinking as if committed today.

Now when decades later Allah Ta‟ala inflicts some form of punishment, e.g. sickness, people panic and go beserk unable to understand why the cancer, etc. have overtaken them and even their babies. Allah Ta‟ala says in the aforementioned Aayat: "Allah knows and you know not." Due to extreme Imaani deficiency almost all people are unable to understand and perceive the nexus between their misdeeds and the hardship. Hence, their focus is never on Allah Ta‟ala. Also understand well that giving Sadqah will not suffice. The calamity will not end and the sickness will not be cured as long as two things have not been correctly discharged: (1) Amends for past acts and sins of zulm, and (2) Taubah Nasooh. While the Hadith mentions that Saqdah extinguishes the Wrath of Allah Ta‟ala and that it is a cure for sickness, it is necessary to observe the essential conditions for attaining the effects of Sadqah.

Innumerable people have requested Ta‟weez from us for a variety of issues. We have observed that whilst the Ta‟weez works miraculously for some, for others it has no effect. The ultimate consequence is the Decree of Allah Ta‟ala. As long as His Pleasure has not been attained, nothing will help to remove difficulties and hardships. But His Pleasure has to be cultivated in fertile ground, i.e. free of sin, with a heart purified by means of valid Taubah,

Taa-at and Thikrullaah.